Hi folks,
Here’s another article on relationships. Again I’ll follow up on my previous article on choice of spouse.
The new point to add here is that you must not take things at the surface when choosing a spouse, rather you must pay close attention to all factors you cosider important in a potential spouse, and seek and apply wisdom from God and from people who have more experience than you.
You must not overemphasize one factor to the detriment of other important factors when picking a spouse.
For example, one may you may be looking for a husband or wife who is caring, responsible etc. i.e. you’re interested in the behaviour of the person. That’s fine. But you must not ignore the person’s background. This is important because the behaviour that a person exhibits during courtship may or may not be their real behaviour.
If you want to know a person’s real behaviour, yes, it’s important to observe how they act towards you, but you must also consider the family the person grew up in. How do people in the person’s family behave? Also, you must consider the behaviour of the friends the person mingles with. This is how you would really know if a person’s beviour is likely to be their real behaviour, or an act.
As a Christian, I also believe it’s imprtant to put one’s endeavours in God’s hands, including choosing a spouse, for only God can give the grace to make good decisions.
That’s all for now. Ciao.